The messy middle.
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Hey Reader, I want to be honest about something: building new systems takes time, and the middle part is usually messy. As someone with ADHD, breaking in a new routine or navigating a sudden schedule shift can throw you off completely. It is so easy to look at everyone else’s polished Instagram highlights and start judging myself because my laundry pile is high or I'm searching for matching socks every morning. That last one is the BANE of my existence. Yet, still low on the priority board. I struggle with giving myself grace, but I’m learning that transition requires trial and error. It also requires getting reinforcement. More to share there soon!! Some days, waking up early feels amazing. Other days, it doesn't work. Some weeks, meal planning means home cooked meals every night. Other weeks, it means giving myself permission to serve leftovers two nights in a row (tonight will be goulash day 3) —even if it’s not my daughter’s absolute favorite. Lately, I’ve been reading The Four Day Win by Martha Beck, and it reinforced something powerful: small, incremental changes matter far more than grand, sweeping overhauls. When we try to fix our entire life in one big push, we usually don't have the mental bandwidth to sustain it. But when you focus on small, 4-day wins—tweaking one small habit, testing one small routine, and giving yourself room to adjust—you actually create lasting progress. You don't need a perfect overhaul today. You just need a small tweak and a lot of grace for the process. What is one small boundary or shortcut you can give yourself permission to take this weekend while you figure out your new rhythm? Keep tweaking, keep adjusting, and give yourself grace in the middle of it. Talk soon, LCJ P.S. We've talked a lot last week and this week about capacity, systems, and giving ourselves grace in the middle of transitions. Are these daily notes serving you? Hit reply and let me know if this series has been helpful for you this week. Is there anything you wish I talked more about? |